This beautiful piece was written by a Facebook user Patrick Ugwa and it is making a whole lot of sense.

All guys out there especially those still holding on to women they are damn sure they don't have plans of spending the rest of their lives with, should read this;


The big difference for us men is, we might not know who we really love, but we always know who we really want to marry. Our feelings may change like the seasons, but that marriage decision remains the same. We know who we want, we always do. We know who we are keeping for friendship and who we are reserving for marriage. It is just the thing about us, our desire might be for many, but our marriage decision is always fixed on one.

So this year dear brother, please for the sake of God, if you know in your heart of hearts that you're not going to marry that girl, cut her loose and let her go. Let her go start something new with someone who will. You have taken enough from her, you have enjoyed the free love and other wifely privileges, cut her loose bro, don't tie down what another man is fasting and praying to have, let that girl go, please.

 We all know who we want to marry, and to be honest the woman we want to marry we don't treat her bad, because we don't want to destroy our own garden. You know I speak the truth, so unfair to destroy the soil of another brother who is somewhere waiting anxiously for his harvest, so unfair.

Let that girl go sir, however you want to do it, just let her go;

"I need a break"
"I need some space to figure out my life"
"I think we need some time apart"
"I have some serious issues right now and I need some time to think"

However you want to say it just let her go. Push her away if she does not want to go;

Ignore her calls until she gets the message.
Ignore her texts until she gets tired.
Pretend to be busy until she's fed up.
Put up some annoying attitude that she cannot keep up with.

Just do anything to push her away. Don't worry if she will be hurt, let her hurt, let her cry, let the disappointment come, let her feel the pain, after a while she will be fine. It is better for you to hurt her now than hold on to her and hurt her destiny, let her cry her way into the right arms.

Set that girl free if you're not going to marry her, please release her to find her destiny if you cannot see her in yours.

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So man, have conscience now and let her go, don't come complaining tomorrow that a certain lady placed a curse on you, stop wasting her time now and let her go so her real life partner can come in.

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